Don't go down till you're knocked down

I hope you are fine, and have enjoyed Diwali Season at it's fullest.
I was little busy in some other work which didn't allow me to write new post. But i took sometime as this is an important story which have a good lesson in it.

On the occasion on Diwali, me and one of my good friend were sitting on the roof top. It had been 3 years for me and 4 years for him since celebrate Diwali at home. This is the part of a Mariner's life. I was missing home and so was the other guy. How great were those childhood days, when we used to prepare crackers, sweets and lot of other stuff for this great festival. We were overwhelming with that feeling.
We were looking at the fireworks in the dark sky. It was mid night. Well this i can say that people in Mumbai don't celebrate Diwali in the way the people in Delhi do. Something somewhere was missing, may the noise of the crackers or the less illumination of Diyas. We were talking some general differences between the Diwali in both places.

 We started sharing the journey of life from the last Diwali at home. How the things in life changed, how the priorities changed, and how the thinking changed . This reminded me the story of a guy i met in Delhi.
Fellas today i am gonna tell you how a person changes with the time and how he exploits his mentality just little money.
In July 2011 , i came to Delhi. I was living in Noida with my friends. All were freshers and looking for jobs. I was looking for a job in which i could get enough time to prepare for entrance tests for Master Degree.  This type of job was not easy to find, but still i was trying. In fact all of us were looking any kind of job which could give us time for studies.
There was a guy living in our neighborhood. He was also looking for job. Being neighbors we started talking. After the few day we came to know that he was from software field. Being a mechanical engineer i didn't had much to discuss with him, but the other flatmates, who were from software background started sharing thoughts with him. It was fine. We started sharing news papers. He seemed to be a genuine person. Every one of us was impressed with his positive thinking. He told us that once he was placed in a company from his campus. That company took some registration fees from them but after exams when these guys went to the company's office, the company disappeared. All of them were shocked, how a company can vanish just like that?  That was the question of their career. But no one could help them. so he started looking for job.
Seriously these fake companies and the bunch of crooks, who run these companies, never think about the future of the students. It was really a shameful act by that company. This is how the future of nation, and the future of the youth is spoiled in India.
Well none of the job, i was offered, could able to give me enough time to studies, So i thought to go for teaching. I was discussing this plan among with the friends, then that guy also joined me and asked me if he could also join teaching. Both of us tried, but i was lucky enough to get lecturership in a college. He was offered a job in some software company.
Eventually all other flatmates also received job offers from different companies. All of us decide to split as the job locations were very far from each other. So me and the that guy, as we were having job in the same area, became flat mates.
After few days, i asked him about his job profile. He told me , that he worked as an HR in the company. He would hire the engineers from the colleges and place them in their company after certain months of training. "What is the name of your company?" i asked him. He replied,"Its a new start up. these people are looking for projects from various big companies." I asked,"Don't you guys have projects right now?" "We have but those are small, two or three people are in the company, who are working on them." I believed him and then i told him about my job.
After a month again i asked him about the progress. He told me that they would charge some money to the students, and will provide them the training for few months, after that they would offer them the job. I was suspecting something wrong. I asked more about the projects, them he told me the company would be having few projects by next month.
I searched on the internet , but there was no such start up with that name. I visited the building where he told me the office was located, but no office was there. I was investigating this because i was little worried, whether he was a genuine person or a fake guy who could stab me in the back?
When i found nothing , i went back to him and ask him to tell me the truth. I was angry as he lied about his job and office location. He told me that he was not working with some start up, but was working with some guys, who would give training to the students. "But buddy you had told me that this was a training and placement program." "Guys only need training in starting, once we will train then we will produce them the experience letter with the name of our company, they can search job on their own. Atleast we will be earning some money and the guys will be getting their experience letter." "But there is no such company exists right?" i said. Then he said,"Who's going to check it?"
"What about the future of these students?" I asked him. Then he said,"We took money will give them training and experience letter. We are not having projects to work upon then why should we employ them?" He said. So that was the matter. This guy who was once trapped in this type of game, now was planning to play the same with the others.
"You shouldn't do it." I said him. "Who are you to tell me this? You don't tell me what should i do or i shouldn't. You mind your own business." He replied. I said" Listen dude! Once you have suffered from this type of game and now you are planning this for others, is it fair?" "I don't know, There are many other companies who are doing the same stuff and making millions of rupees, why shouldn't i? Better if you also join us. you are a mechanical engineer, and this will help us in attracting mechanical engineers also." He replied. "Shut up!You must stop  this."i said, but then he replied" I won't and better if you mind your own business."
Well that was really shameful for him. The guy who was so much positive and good in  nature, could have done something good, would now spoil the others future. My attempt to make him understand didn't work. So finally i moved out and took another room on rent in a building. We are not in contact, neither i want to be. But i receive few messages from him on facebook. When i checked his profile, he was still doing the same work and haven't grown much in his crooky work.
Fellas this story can very well tell you, how a guy, who was once a good human, with positive attitude and full of enthusiasm , gets spoiled for money.
Friends, there are various situations, various phases in life, there are ups, there are downs, but that doesn't mean that one should turn to corruption or forgery. We all know every night has an upcoming morning. This is Irony Of life. All we need is to just have some faith in ourselves. We all have to keep on doing the hard work in the right direction, then surely we shall achieve the great things.
Swami Vivekanada once said, "Don't go down till you're knocked down". For me it means never loose faith until you're dead. Believe in yourself, You can cheat the world, but then will you be truthful to yourself? Will you respect yourself? No! Then why to cheat people, and all of above why to cheat yourselves? To whom are you making fool by doing the bad deeds? No one , but yourselves.
I hope you have understood the lesson of this story and i sincerely hope that none of us will do something which will harm the society. We are human, looking for the betterment of the world.
Your views and comments are welcome.

P.S. -  My friend, if you're reading your own story and if you are still indulged in that work, still you have time. Life may give you a better chance. All in our hands, Everyone gets the things according to his deeds.

The She Among Us

Whole day i was thinking to get back to writing, as this is something i always enjoy. Though for some time i was not much available for writing, as i have mentioned in my earlier posts, but surely now i will not break this good routine, unless there is something very exceptional.
 Today i was talking to a girl about her interests and goals. I was surprised to hear her words as this was something i wasn't expecting. The words what she said were really nice and impressive but from the ground she was saying those words was totally different. She said ;"I am a student of commerce, pursuing M.com. I am part time social activist and want to be like Malala." Wow! that's really good to hear these type of words from someone from a very small place in Kerala.
I don't think i have to tell here who is Malala? Malala Yousafzai has won Nobel prize (peace) 2014, jointly with an Indian activist Kailash Satyarthi. She has been an activist to promote girls education in Pakistan after surviving an attack. It is not only Malala who has been working for women's rights, but there are other plenty of women around the world , who are struggling for women's rights an working hard to achieve their goals.
 Women's rights has always been a topic of discussion for long time, but still why women are suffering from the dominating nature of this world? This is a question we must ask ourselves. The condition of women in India and in European countries are getting better but still in the middle east and Countries like Pakistan, Afghanistan, the hypocrite people are not allowing them to grow up. C'mon they are not animal, they are also human, who devote their whole life for family, children and husband. They Sacrifice their charm their young age to grow their children, to feed them , to take care of their husbands, and parents. Isn't that a sacrifice? Yes it is, and everyone has to accept it.
 I won't say that condition of women is very good in India as still at many places, specially in rural areas, thousands of women faces molestation and violence daily. The husband who brought her home after promising her parents a lot of things, including her safety and care, forgets about those promises and starts treating her a slave, Why? I mean is it ok?No it is Not! It doesn't happen in everywhere but in rural areas, if you take any local newspaper and start reading it, you will find most of the news are related to violence, rapes and dowries.
I remember how after Nirbhaya Case in delhi, all social networking sites were flooded with the slogans related to "Eve Safety", "Women rights" and "Nirbhaya". Almost every individual who was aware of it, contributed by changing his profile pic with a black dot, or by writing some message with hastag Nirbhaya and many more stuff. Where are those people now? Will this type of internet posts bring the change? Ask this question to yourself , surely the answer will be No! Nothing will change unless and until our souls and minds will be pure, and our feelings will change. If these happen then surely every women will get respect she deserves.
This is not the case only in India, but same thing, in same or another manner, happens in European countries also. I was having conversation with one of my polish friend. She told me that her mother and she have faced various emotional breakdowns, and the reason behind every breakdown was a Man , who didn't give them the rights and respect they deserved. Finally they took an stand and fought for their rights, raised their voice and gained it. This is something what is to be done by every women.
Well, these all things are right for the women who has genuine and pure feelings, who wants to do something good in her life, who want to gain something great or simply want to live a peaceful  happy life. But what if the woman of the other kind takes a stand and talk about rights, respect and every other thing? than that becomes a problem. That time a Man gets assaulted, and molested. I was reading a post by some person in Pune, Maharashtra, who shared his experience. This poor fellow was travelling in a crowded city bus. He saw a girl standing with a heavy bag. This guy , being a gentlemen, offered his seat to this girl. Now guess what was the reward? He received a warm slap from that girl. The whole crowed stared at him as the girl shouted that the guy was hitting on her. Now i don't know what was the condition there, but after reading that well elaborated story , what i could make out was that girl might be frustrated on something and she poured her anger on that guy. The whole crowed started shouting on that guy and finally he came down from the bus at the very next stop.
About the above matter what i can say is, this was a kind of misuse of her feminine rights. Women should be respected always, but this doesn't mean that the man is always a culprit. Victim can be any of us, man or women , so as the culprit. But this thing everyone has to keep in mind that unless and until there is really some mistake, none of them shall be treated in bad manner or in disrespectful way. In fact women should be given more respect as she devotes her life for the family.
Fellas, all and all if you see the women should be given her rights. Give a stand to her dreams, Treat her with dignity and Respect her. We have her in form of Mother, sister, friend, lover and soul mate.
Thinking has to be changed, and i hope after reading this , we all will respect the SHE among us.

I hope you have enjoyed reading this blog and surely will bring a change. I would like to know your views. Please leave your comments. Your suggestions are welcome.

 

Live Your Dream, and Just Do It.

Do you ever imagine about going in the space and see the Blue planet from there, see the galaxies and the stars? Well I guess everyone does it sometimes or did it in childhood. I have a little story about a kid who always wanted to be Stargazer, The kid full with the eyes full of dreams and mind with plenty of plans. These are the childhood days , in which someone has plenty of time to think and do whatever he want, can go beyond the imaginations and can dream about the impossibles. So as this kid was doing.

This particular kid, i am talking about, was very much fond of science and always wonders about the things around him. Curiosity in him was on heights and the dreams of being an stargazer were on peak. I believe "If you can dream it, You can get it." Same thing this kid believed in.

Once, there was a asteroid passing through the sky. It was a dark night , This little fella was looking at this shining thing in the sky. He was very happy to watch it and was feeling wonderful. He asked his parents, "What is it?" , They replied,"This is a Broken star." Well he had heard from his friends, that if you see some broken star in the sky, wish something , then you will finally get it. This little fella closed his eyes and prayed for peace and happiness for everyone around him. 

 Days passed, but this little fella was still thinking about that asteroid. He went to his grandma and asked her about the same. Grandparents always loves their grandchildren much more then their parents do. The grandma was a lady of old beliefs and used to love that kid a lot. As she didn't know much about the science that time and whatever she was told about the asteroids and comets in her childhood, was not good. So she said that kid,"It is not something you should see. These things are not good." This was her love because of which she told him that mythical stuff, which scientifically not correct. But that was all she knew about it. 

The kid, though loved to see the stars, aeroplanes and everything in the sky , got little scared. He believed on her grandma's thoughts. Then he stopped looking much in the sky at night because he didn't want to see some comet or asteroid again. Though his dream was still in his heart and whenever he gets a chance to see the sky full of stars he use to watch it , with his fingers crossed. 

As the time passed , the kid grew up, went to school, he got a lot of knowledge about space and the solar system. He felt funny about the old myths and told about the same to his grandma. She was also happy to know about that stuff. 

Time Changed, priorities changed, so as the goals. The kid then thought to become an aviator, then he became an engineer and finally settled down, with a good industrial job. One night, this fella was looking in the sky and was thinking about the stars and space. Then that little incident from the past popped up in his mind. He desperately wanted to see something from the space, live! Though there were plenty of websites available on the internet and especially NASA, where you can see the videos from the space, But his guy wanted to see something live. He wanted to see something from the space which he can track. It seems strange , why did he want to do that? What kind of happiness will he get out of it? Well mates! there are some emotions and feelings which you can never express, but can feel only. This guy ran to his computer , searched what can he see live. Then finally decided to track the satellites. Amazing! Even i like that! He noted down some of the sites and there orbits, timings and the azimuth angles , directions and plenty of stuff. He forgot all his work and was desperate to see the satellites , just to refresh the memories from the past and get a feel of his dream. He did it, tracked some satellites that night. He's still doing the same whenever he's getting time, because this was something he always wanted to do in his childhood.

This little story can very well tell you, no matter how much offsetted you are from your childhood dream, you can live that dream in one or the another manner. Always do what gives you happiness and pleasure. The stuff what this guy does really gives him some knowledge about the stars as well as gives him a chance to live his childhood dream, though it's not what exactly he wanted to be , but instead of living with an incomplete dream he does something which makes him close to that dream.

With time priorities and the aim changes, It's not what i have experienced, it's something which we all have experienced. So, never feel bad if your profession has changed from what your dream was, try to live that in some other form. You wanted to be Actor , but if you are an engineer, try modelling, if not that, pose yourself everywhere in the best groomed manner. If you are a Manager but you wanted to be doctor then participate in charity medical camps. Go in the rural areas with the team of doctors, organize camps, with the help of NGO's . I'm not saying you to do medical practice but you can spread awareness about the hygiene , health and happiness. Similarly you can choose an alternative.

I would like to know how do you feel about my stories and would like to hear your views. It will really give me immense pleasure, if you read it and share it. I will  meet you soon with another story.

That was love! Oh Really?

How can someone be so stupid that without knowing some individual, he can leave his family , friends and everything behind , just because he feels he's in love? Well I've met that kind of fella once.
 This reminds me a day in January 2014, when i was in plane to Amsterdam. I had to join a ship from panama. Well, my journey begins from Delhi. From the office i got the flight details, had flights from Delhi to Cristobal via Mumbai then Amsterdam. I reached Mumbai in night and went to the terminal where i had to catch the plane. The flight was on time , i reached inside the plane. I made my self comfortable in my seat. I was expecting some hot chick to sit next to me, but what i had a guy from Kerala sitting next to me. I was little disappointed that in this long flight i don't have some blond or at least Indian girl sitting next to me. Still i had my dinner and thought to sleep.
 I don't like to be rude to people , so i introduced myself to that fella , the boy introduced himself. That was fine, then finally i again thought to sleep. This time that fella started talking, Asked about my profession, then obviously I asked the same from him. Well, i came to know that the boy was some Graduate guy with some tourism diploma and had knowledge of french language. I like learning new languages , then we started talking about our places. certainly the boy was good guy but still for the cause he was flying didn't make any sense, I thought that was an act of immaturity.
 He told me , that he met a girl from some country( i don't exactly remember the name) on facebook, had a long chat with her and they both are in love. Seriously?? I mean is that really possible? You simply start chatting with someone and within few hours or days you fall for her? I can say that as an affection, which can happen between friends and beloved ones, but the love he was talking about was not making sense. I thought he might be kidding, but hearing his intense feelings, i guess he was really in dilemma that he was in love.
  Well that fella had already left home, with all his savings in his pocket. What about visa and meeting with her ?" I asked. The boy said;" I have contacted her while leaving home. She told me that visa is on arrival. Also she'll be helping me in settling down there." Whoa! I was surprised, "Is that so easy?" You just find someone random from facebook or some social networking site and blindly do all that mad stuff or this guy is taking it as a shortcut to get a green card?
This whole story of this boy was not letting me sleep as i was feeling like i must stop him from taking this wrong step which he had already taken. Well what all i could do was just tell him that seriously whatever he's doing is nothing but stupidity. But on the other end i didn't want to break his heart.
We reached Amsterdam Air port in Morning. There we had a flight after 4 hours so i was roaming around in the airport along with this fella . We were looking for some payphone as cellphone batteries weren't changed. Luckily i saw payphone but that  could be used by some card stuff. Then i saw a charging port for cellphone. Bingo! I plugged my phone in and asked him to plug his, then the Dude told me that he forgot the charger at home. "What?? Then how will you contact with that girl after reaching there?" "I will drop message to her on facebook. She will come to pick me up." "But your cellphone is not working, right?" "Then, I will do it from yours." "I am not going in your flight buddy." "I am saying that i will do it right now via your cell phone . Then there she will come to pick me up. Its just 6 hours of the flight from here." The boy clarified. Can you believe this?
"Ok!" I said and gave that guy my cellphone. He dropped message to his so called lover. I was curious to know the end result of this story. I asked him to connect with me on facebook. I asked him if she would not come then what will he do? The boy said"I have money to buy my return ticket." "Cool!" i said. After having little breakfast there, we went on our flights.
After that i was thinking about that story, "What will happen, Will she come? Is she stupid or was that really love?" Then after joining the ship , I got indulged in the work and forgot about this guy. One day something reminded me of that story. I went on the internet to asked that fella  what had happened after that? But when i checked his profile, he was back in his town, and was posting some sad posts. I was totally surprised. I knew that wasn't love. "Then why didn't i stop him?", I was asking myself , but still i was a bit relaxed as he was safe at home, otherwise something wrong would had happened. I still don't know what happened after reaching there with that guy, the girl was genuine or not; was there really a girl; or the love wasn't true. Whatever it was but then i realized, how some immature guy can make himself fool by misjudging his own feelings.
Fellas, this story tells how hard it is to believe on the person sitting on the other side of the internet. Don't blindly believe on someone; Don't misjudge your feelings. Well this story will surely gives some lesson especially to the young people.
I would love if you share this story with your younger, so that they will  not make any mistake like the boy did. Also , I would like to hear your view and comments.

P.S. - Buddy if you are reading your own story, then don't feel bad. Stay happy as you still have a chance to find the right girl.

Let's Talk Life

So, That's how it starts! I have been thinking to write something for a long time, days passed then months then year, but didn't get much time to write here something. The things which i share here fellas are really from deep inside of me, from within from the heart and soul. I hope you all enjoy what i write here.
Well this all what i want to talk about today is the fun and journey i had in last couple of days, months and years. That's looks like ascending order but i would like to start from the years first. Things have pretty changed in past few years. This is life , daily we have to deal with a new page in the book of life. Sometimes we feel everything is alright and seems smooth, but sometimes we loose hope, and that's the place , the moment , we make mistakes. What i have learnt so far from life, mates, is never loose hope , and always believe in you!
Every time we look back to check how far in life we have come, makes most of us feel regrets, Which can only destroy the present moment , and can not help in anyway , except giving lessons. There is a time in everyone's ;life when he or pretty she feels like to do something great in life then after achieving the aims, the goals the angels want to settle down in life with their beloved ones; but the aims always changes , priorities changes, so the plans. This is life.
Some people run Recklessly in life leaving behind friends, family, lovers and everything just to chase their goals, to reach there aim, and they become selfish. Selfish not in the sense they hurt them but in the sense they think all the time about themselves their goals, their passion , and then they forget to give time to their beloved ones , the people who care about them, the people who love them. This is nothing but the mistake.
Now one day when this reckless fellow looks behind how far has he come; he finds himself alone, with no one standing by his side. Well surely and obviously that time this poor fellow will not feel good, i Guess; unless he has turned into a totally selfish fellow.
So the point here i would like to make is my buddies, that we all have to give sufficient time to our beloved ones, parents, friends and lovers.
I am not talking all this just to be some kind of inspirational guy or something , but why i am saying this all mates, because this is all what i have experienced so far. last few years were lovely and hopefully the upcoming future will be brighter. But still some sour moments were also there which makes you realize something , which you can not forget nor you can talk about. On the other corner , this is also true that this kind of things most of the people feels and experience in their lives but they don't share or dare to talk about. But when these people read some stuff like this , they feels inside them, "Yes! This is what i feels." and in their dark room they sit in the night play melodious songs, some symphony kind of music and read it and go nostalgic in the past.
Whoa whoa whoa!!! Where are you guys? Come up here we were talking right? So here i would like you guys to share your stuff with me and i will tell you the sour sweet stories, some exciting some bad experiences, and some seriously weird stuff from a sailors life.
Will catch up you guys soon!!